If your teenager is going through a relationship breakup, it can be hard to know how to support them. As a parent, it is upsetting to see your child hurting and it may even bring up painful memories of your own relationships and separations.
While you may want to see them bounce back to normal, healing from a heartbreak is a natural process that takes time and will be different for each person.
There is no right or wrong way for a teenager to feel after a breakup, they may feel a mix of:
These feelings are common in any relationship breakup. For teenagers these emotions can be extra hard for them to cope with because there are a lot of changes happening in their brain at that age.
It’s likely you will see changes in your child’s behaviour. They might react by:
This change in behaviour might affect their schoolwork and activities and can be disruptive to the whole family. Remember, this time will pass. This may be their first real test in resilience and as a parent, you can help them to come to terms with their emotions and feel better.
If your child does not seem to improve with time after the end of their relationship or seems to slip into a depression, then it may be advisable to seek some extra support from a GP or counselling service.
If your child has existing mental health conditions, a breakup can be extra hard for them, so be aware they may need more support.
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