Knowing how to approach behaviour is a challenge for any parent. But as adoptive parents and foster carers, you may face the added challenge of caring for children who’ve experienced adversity, trauma and uncertainty.
You may remember challenging behaviours when your child first came to live with you. If your child is feeling anxious at the moment or experiencing difficult circumstances, they may revert to some of those habits. For instance:
Behaviour is a way of communicating needs and expressing emotions. It’s similar to the ‘flight or fight’ response we all experience in moments of stress.
If you recognise old behaviours, try the responses you used when they first appeared. You may have to change them to make them age appropriate. For instance:
Speak to your child about how they’re feeling about whatever is happening in their life right now.
If your child feels anxious or stressed, give your child opportunities to feel calm throughout the day. You could try:
Maintain connections can help give a sense of stability.