If you are being abused by someone you live with, try to get help as soon as you can. Help is available from the police and other local services.
If you’re worried someone is watching what websites you look at, Stop Domestic Abuse have advice on how to cover your tracks online.
Domestic abuse is any kind of abuse from someone you live with or have a close relationship with.
Abuse is any behaviour that harms, punishes, or frightens you. This can include:
Coercive control is an ongoing pattern of acts of abuse that might include any of these.
People of any gender can abuse or be abused. Domestic abuse, including coercive control, is illegal in the UK.
Abuse can take many forms. If you or someone you know might be in an abusive relationship, it’s useful to recognise the signs.
If you or your family are in immediate danger, call the police on 999.
You can also register in advance to be able to text 999.
If you don’t want to involve the police, domestic abuse charities can also help you get to safety. These helplines have limited hours unless stated as 24hr.
National Domestic Abuse Helpline:
Loving Me – for transgender and non-binary people
These helplines listed should all be UK wide. There are also national services in Northern Ireland, Scotland, and Wales who give support to anyone in these countries who is affected by domestic abuse.
Domestic and Sexual Violence Helpline
Scotland’s 24 hr Domestic abuse and Forced Marriage helpline
If you feel able to talk to someone you trust, don’t wait for an emergency to do so.
If you have children or are pregnant you could talk to your:
These people will be able to help you to understand what your next steps may be.
You can also contact the police for advice.
Planning how to leave an abusive situation can help protect you and your children. IDAS (Independent Domestic Abuse Services) have useful advice on how to make a plan.
Many pharmacies and banks across the country are part of the UK Says No More safe space scheme.
If you need to access a safe space to start getting help, you can find your nearest safe space provider.
You can then go there and ask a member of staff to use their safe space. You can also ask for Ani. This is a code word that means you are asking for a safe space.
You will be shown to a private room that you can use however you need to. For example, you contact friends, family, or specialist support services.