When you feel like your partner isn’t doing their fair share at home, it can have a huge effect on your family life.
You might be feeling frustrated, angry or exhausted. This can be bad for your overall wellbeing, and can affect your children and partner too. It is important to try and address the situation as quickly as possible.
It’s often helpful to work out exactly what the issue is. Ask yourself:
Think about what they are already doing so you can start with the positives before looking at the areas you would like to change.
Talking to your partner about how you feel is a good start to resolving the issue. Look at questions like:
To express how you feel without getting angry or upset, try some of these tips:
When you’re both ready, make a plan together – be as clear as you can about exactly what you need and give your partner the time to do the same. Be realistic about your expectations of each other. If your children are older you could also look at making a whole family plan together so everyone is clear about what they are doing.