Losing daily contact with your child can feel devastating. Going from being with your children all the time to limited visits will be a big adjustment. You might feel angry, upset and helpless, especially at the beginning. You may even feel a sense of grief or loss. That’s OK.
Try to remember that it won’t feel this difficult forever, and there are things that can help you feel better.
Acknowledge and recognise your emotions. They might include loss, guilt, relief, injustice, anger or loneliness. Allowing yourself to feel these emotions is part of the healing process. Don’t judge how you feel.
Some things that might help include:
Focus on what you are able to do. You might want to arrange to go on a course to help reinstate contact. Sometimes the court will suggest this. That might include guidance on anger management or a course for separated parents.
Make plans for when you’ll see your child. Think about what you can do together.
Try to keep a positive relationship with your ex-partner. This will make it less stressful for you and your child.
Focus on your wellbeing and try to stay fit and healthy. Keeping your mind and body healthy will help you be a better parent to your children.
Make plans and spend time on things you enjoy. Anything that will help your mental, emotional or physical wellbeing is a great way to fill your time.