If you are being abused by someone you live with, try to get help as soon as you can. Help is available from the police and other local services.
If you’re worried someone is watching what websites you look at, Stop Domestic Abuse have advice on how to cover your tracks online.
Domestic abuse is any kind of abuse from someone you live with or have a close relationship with.
Abuse is any behaviour that harms, punishes, or frightens you. This can include:
Coercive control is an ongoing pattern of acts of abuse that might include any of these.
People of any gender can abuse or be abused. Domestic abuse, including coercive control, is illegal in the UK.
If you or your family are in immediate danger, call the police on 999.
You can also register in advance to be able to text 999.
If you don’t want to involve the police, domestic abuse charities can also help you get to safety. These helplines have limited hours unless stated as 24hr.
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These helplines listed should all be UK wide. There are also national services in Northern Ireland, Scotland, and Wales who give support to anyone in these countries who is affected by domestic abuse.
If you feel able to talk to someone you trust, don’t wait for an emergency to do so.
If you have children or are pregnant you could talk to your:
These people will be able to help you to understand what your next steps may be.
You can also contact the police for advice.
Many pharmacies and banks across the country are part of the UK Says No More safe space scheme.
If you need to access a safe space to start getting help, you can find your nearest safe space provider.
You can then go there and ask a member of staff to use their safe space. You can also ask for Ani. This is a code word that means you are asking for a safe space.
You will be shown to a private room that you can use however you need to. For example, you contact friends, family, or specialist support services.
You don’t have to share your details with us – there are lots of reasons why you might want to remain anonymous, which we will respect. All calls are confidential, and we will always seek your agreement before we share any of your details with other organisations. The only time we will share information without your consent is if we think there is a life-threatening situation, or if you or someone else might be at risk of significant harm. On these occasions we may need to contact the Police, Ambulance Service or Children’s Social Care.
We keep your chat data for up to seven years, and share anonymised data with the commissioners of this service. By using Parent Talk, you understand and give your explict consent to this.
Your email address will not be used for any reason beyond giving you parenting information, support and advice.