Leaving a relationship is never an easy choice, especially if you have a child. But you can take steps to help you and your family cope with any changes.
It’s especially important to get support if you’re trying to leave an abusive relationship. If you or your children are in immediate danger, always contact the police.
The practical steps you will need to take might be different if you’re experiencing domestic abuse. You can get advice from Women’s Aid, Mankind and Galop, an LGBTQ+ inclusive UK charity with a confidential helpline.
You may have worries or doubts about the best thing to do. Relate has a section to guide you through thinking about:
Counselling or talk therapy can give support to the whole family. You can try couples counselling, family counselling, or therapy for yourself. Your GP will be able to help you start this process and talk about your options.
Think about any friends or family who can help support you through this time. You might not have anyone you feel comfortable speaking to yet. That’s OK too.
If you decide to leave, work out the best time to tell your partner. Do you need a friend or family member with you for support? Try to do it when your child is out of the house if possible.
Give your ex-partner time to come to terms with things. You may have been thinking about leaving for some time, but they could be shocked.
Feeling more organised can help you manage the situation:
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