How do I know if my child has low self-esteem?

Self-esteem is how someone feels about themself. When we feel good about ourselves, it helps us to feel confident around other people and by ourselves. Children with good self-esteem find it easier to adapt to change, are more likely to try new things and can ask for help when they need it.

When someone has low self-esteem, they’re more likely to think negatively about their abilities and worth. The more they have these thoughts, the harder it is to feel happy about themselves.

Signs someone has low self-esteem can include:

• Comparing themselves to others.
• Blaming themselves for things.
• Persistent fear of failure.
• Trying to please others.
• Getting defensive when they feel criticised.
• Avoiding certain situations.
• Neglecting or even abusing harming themselves.

There’s no single cause for low self-esteem. Children can have low self-esteem for many reasons and the things that happen in their life and the people around them can all play a part. Your child might have low self-esteem due to:

• Feeling like they don’t fit in or having poor body image.
• People criticising them, putting them down or even bullying them.
• Comparing themselves to what they see on social media.
• Unhealthy friendships or relationships.
• Changes at home such as a separation or a bereavement.

It can be upsetting if you think your child has low self-esteem, but there are ways you can support your child to improve their self-esteem.