Advice if you’re worried for your child’s safety because of race, religion or ethnicity

If you’re worried for your child’s safety because of their race, religion or ethnicity, you may be unsure what to do. It can help to have open conversations with your child, take practical action to feel more secure, and ask for support where possible.

There may be times that feel more unsafe for your child than usual. When tensions are high or your faith or community has been under attack, the most important thing for you during these times is to stay safe. It can help to:

• follow local media to stay aware if anything has happened or is about to happen that might put you and your family at risk – try to avoid the area if possible
• help your child to plan safe routes when they are out and be aware of their surroundings
• make sure they know where they can go for help if they need it, who to call, or the location of trusted safe space like a library, GP surgery or pharmacy
• have a checking-in routine, such as calls or texts at particular times, so you know that your child is OK
• talk to them about installing an app on their phone to track their location
• use your support network, share information and advice with family and friends who might be at risk and ask other contacts for help

Educate yourself and learn about where and how your child may experience discrimination.

Let your child know that they can talk to you about anything. This can help create a safe space for them to share their worries with you.

Help them understand that it’s OK and important to talk about discrimination and how to stay safe. Encourage them to love themselves, to be proud of who they are, and to know that no one should be discriminated against. Talk about it regularly, when you feel the time is right. Share how other people in your family keep themselves safe in their life and work.

Making these conversations feel normal increases the chance your child will speak to you about anything that may have happened.

Know the reporting channels local to you. Look at your local council or police website to see how and where to report. Learn how to report a hate crime.

If something is making your child feel unsafe, talk to their school so that they’re aware of how your child feels. If you are concerned that things may happen at the school gates, school staff might be able to keep watch.

Document anything that takes place and encourage your child to do so too, whether in school or out of school. If someone targets them, encourage them to stay calm and only speak up if they feel safe. Teach them to tell a responsible adult when they can.

It is understandable that at times you might feel scared, stressed or worried for your family’s safety. You might feel afraid to leave your home or that your family will be targeted for the way you look, how you dress, the language you speak or where you worship. You are not the only one who feels this way.

Try to practice self-care. Focus on the people who love and appreciate who you are. Share your concerns with family and friends who know you. Looking after yourself can help you feel more able to be there for your child.

It may help to talk to:

• your GP
• your local mental health crisis team
• Shout text service, for anyone struggling to cope – text Shout to 85258
• Samaritans – call 116 123 or email jo@samaritans.org

Connecting with others in your local area and workplace where possible, helps you build a stronger community close to home. This in turn can help ensure your family has support around them in more difficult times.

If and when you feel safe, you could:

• attend local events or sessions that are inclusive and celebrate diversity
• share your experiences about discrimination and conflict at workshops or discussions in your area, school or work
• find ways to celebrate your culture or religion in your local community

Check your local council website for community groups and events.