My child is falling behind at school 

Many parents worry how their child will keep up with other children academically. This can be particularly hard if they have had time away from school, or have lacked the support they need to keep up. 

Remember that everyone learns at a different pace. It’s important that children first settle into the routine of a school day.  

Support for your child’s mental and emotional wellbeing is also very important to have in place.  

 

Take a positive attitude

  • Focus on the positives as much as possible. Praise what your child achieves, rather than where they have fallen behind. 
  • Speak to your child to get a sense of where they are. Older students might be particularly anxious about their next steps. Small, achievable targets are a good thing too.    
  • Be patient with your child. If they’re unhappy, they are more likely to struggle to settle. This can affect their academic progress and wellbeing.
  • Help your child find opportunities to rebuild their social and communication skills. Going to school may mean making new friends, which will help support their mental health. Academic progress will happen over time.   

Work out the best way to support them

  • Start an ongoing conversation with teaching staff and the school. Ask questions to get a detailed sense of where your child is. Your child’s teacher will be looking for knowledge gaps. 
  • If your child is worried about going back to school after a break, you can talk to their teacher. Make sure you child is happy for you to share this. This should help them understand how your child is coping with the change.. 
  • Where you can, work with your child to support them with work that’s sent home. They may find some tasks more difficult. Try to help them build up core skills bit by bit. 
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This advice was written by our experienced Parent Talk coaches. Parent Talk is a free online service for parents and carers, provided by the charity Action for Children. For more advice, message our parenting coaches with our online chat.

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