What you can do if your child has nightmares

We all have nightmares from time to time, but they can be very upsetting for children.

Help them feel safe by acknowledging and comforting their fears.

What are nightmares?

Nightmares typically start between the ages of three and six. They usually occur later in the sleep cycle, usually in the early hours of the morning. Unlike night terrors, children can remember nightmares (or remember feeling afraid) after waking.

Things you can do

  • Show and tell them that you understand how scared or upset they feel.
  • Tell a soothing bedtime story, or sing some favourite songs or rhymes together.
  • Encourage your child to cuddle a favourite soft toy.
  • Gentle touch can be comforting, but whether this helps depends on your child. Ask your child if a gentle massage would make them feel better, or if something else would help.
  • Ask them to tell you about the best part of their day, or something that made them laugh.
  • A full bladder may trigger nightmares and night terrors, so try to limit drinks before bedtime and ask your child if they need the toilet before starting their bedtime routine.
  • Try to avoid going into the bedroom after your little one has fallen asleep because sudden noises can trigger nightmares and night terrors.
  • Try using mindfulness activities to soothe your child after they’ve woken up.
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This advice was written by our experienced Parent Talk coaches. Parent Talk is a free online service for parents and carers, provided by the charity Action for Children. For more advice, message our parenting coaches with our online chat.

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