When you’re separated, children can sometimes develop worries about seeing their other parent. This can happen even if you have a positive co-parenting and contact agreement in place.
There are many possible causes, and these feelings can affect children of any age. You may find it also makes you feel more anxious or puts a strain on your co-parenting relationship.
There are a few things to bear in mind, and actions you can take.
Talk to your child about what’s worrying them. Take care to listen and consider their feelings.
Some children may find going between homes unsettling. If your child is older, they may want to spend time with their friends over the weekends. If you child sees the other parent at the weekend or during holidays, remember that this is their time to relax.
If your child is struggling with anxious feelings or doesn’t seem open to talking, you can:
As long as you feel your child is safe with the other parent, you can:
Speak to the co-parent about any concerns. If you find it hard to be calm when talking to the other parent, use text or email. Try to keep a positive tone throughout.
If your child has raised concerns or you feel they may be at risk of harm, seek advice before enforcing contact.