Sharing doesn’t always come naturally to young children – it’s something they need to practise. The trick is to make sharing and taking turns fun.
Show your child what sharing looks like: “Shall we share?” or “Look, I’m sharing my seat with you.”
Try different games to help your child learn.
Try not to get cross or call your child selfish when they won’t share. It can make sharing a negative experience they’ll want to resist. If they’re old enough, ask why they don’t want to share, and respect their reasons.
It’s OK to not want to share a favourite toy or bedtime bear. If this is the case, remind them to put a prized possession away when visiting friends.
In the meantime, keep showing and telling what sharing looks like. If you’re having difficulty, it may help to read our article on understanding and managing behaviour.
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