The most useful tactic is to reward behaviours you want to see more of. There are also ways of reacting to challenging behaviour that help your child know how you want them to act. It’s worth trying some of the ones listed below.
Keep in mind that acting out may simply mean your child is hungry, tired, nervous, or in a bad mood. Taking a breath and then tackling these needs is sometimes all you need to do.
Children love attention and work hard to get it, even if that means acting out. The key is giving lots of praise for the behaviours you want to see more of.
If you’re struggling with a behaviour you don’t like, make sure to praise the positive opposite behaviour. For example, if your child often doesn’t listen, give more attention when they do listen and do what you’ve asked.
Try to avoid being harsh or critical, shouting, threatening, or humiliating your child. These kinds of ‘negative discipline’ don’t help, and can hurt your child’s emotional wellbeing. Bribing and giving in to your child are also types of negative discipline.
Being a parent isn’t easy, so remember to be kind to yourself, too. All children are capable of learning good behaviour – it just takes time and practice.
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