How can I reward good behaviour?

Giving lots of praise is a great way to encourage and reward good behaviour. Remember that children need extra help to connect the praise to their actions.

You can reward good behaviour through your words, body language, or even keep track of it using a reward chart.

Top tips on rewarding good behaviour

  • Praise children straight after they’ve behaved well. Be specific and say what you’re pleased about: “Well done for getting ready so quickly! That’s really helpful, thank you”.
  • Praise doesn’t have to be verbal – a thumbs-up, a hug or a smile works just as well.
  • Don’t keep approval for when they’ve done something big. If you appreciated how they were quiet while you were on the phone, let them know.
  • Try to praise your child for who they are, as well as what they do: “I love how funny you are, you make me laugh!” or “I’m proud of how kind you are to your friends”. Praising your child in front of others is an even bigger boost.
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